The slave

What is "slavery"?

slavery is not about suffering...
...slavery is about service

slavery is not about humiliation...
...slavery is about humility

slavery is not about pain...
...slavery is about being present

slavery is not about being used...
...slavery is about being of use

slavery is not about control...
...slavery is about letting go

slavery is not about your desires...
...slavery is about giving to others

slavery is not about abuse...
...slavery is about acceptance

slavery is not about proving anything...
...slavery is about being real

slavery is not about contempt...
...slavery is about respect

slavery is not about how you look...
...slavery is about the size of your heart

slavery is not about denying yourself...
...slavery is about being open

slavery is not about bondage...
...slavery is about freeing your spirit

slavery is not about punishment...
...slavery is about discipline

slavery is not about being unable to escape...
...slavery is about being committed

slavery is not about submission...
...slavery is about obedience

slavery is not about fear...
...slavery is about trust

slavery is not about sex...
...slavery is about love

slavery is not about pleasure...
...slavery is about happiness

Basic Guidelines For A slave

Be Patient: A potential Master will let you know if He is interested in you or not. Keep in mind that your purpose, as a slave, is to serve and please a Master who will take into consideration the realization of your fantasies. Do not expect your Master to be able to turn on like a light switch — the timing must be right for both of you.

Be Humble: You may be God's gift to the world and the most sought after prize in town, but no one needs to hear it or wants to hear it. You will have ample opportunity to show, and prove, how good you are. No matter what you claim, the "real you" will show through in a BDSM scene. So, don't set yourself up for failure, before you begin, by developing expectations that you know you and your Master can never achieve.

Be Open: You can learn something about BDSM and about yourself from everyone into the scene, no matter how experienced, or inexperienced, they are, or how dominant or submissive they are. BDSM is a very personal art and an "I already know it all" attitude will only make you miss valuable lessons and experiences. In addition, you could lose potentially valuable BDSM contacts.

Communicate: Verbalization is necessary, but at the appropriate time and place, in the appropriate way. Your Master needs to know basic information about you, such as you experience level, fantasies, health concerns and your "turn-offs". However, unless it is an emergency, wait until your Master asks. Don't expect your Master to be a mind-reader who instinctively knows your needs, desires, and limits. Your cooperation will enhance the scene for both of you.

Be Honest: Do not be afraid to share your needs and desires — an experienced Master expects it. Honesty about your desires, health concerns, and "turn-offs" is essential to have a good scene. Lying, or being less than candid, can only lead to problems as the Master will base the scene on inaccurate information. In addition to causing problems, it can be dangerous!

Be Vulnerable: Your scene is a two-way street. It is not just the physical realization of your prior fantasies. If you want to limit your experience to certain physical or psychological stimulation, then you must let your Master know ahead of time. But don't always expect your Master to be slave to your fantasies — it's far better to let the Master surprise you, to extend your limits, to take you to places you have never been before. When you trust your Master completely, let him know it, and let him guide you into new fantasies.

Be Realistic: Your Master is human, and even the most experienced Masters have moments of awkwardness and indecision. Don't call attention to what you perceive as a lapse. Know the difference between reality and the fantasy world you see in literature and movies. Few Masters are rich enough to afford a large dungeon with a lavish layout of equipment. Your Master's equipment is expensive — respect it and don't abuse it!

Be Submissive: This is the whole point! Let your Master take you over completely. Don't coach or second guess or be critical to your Master. Exchange information on your special needs before the scene starts, but once it starts be quiet. If you insist on running a scene to your own specifications, then you should try being a top. You have agreed to limitations of your own power — stay within those limitations. Respect and obey your Master and expect punishment if you don't. Your Master has many things to be concerned with, including your safety and what turns you on. Be loyal and dependable, and enjoy your role.

Be Healthy: BDSM, like any strenuous activity, requires that its participants — both active/dominant and passive/submissive — be in top physical and emotional health. The amount you sleep, your eating habits, your alcohol and drug intake, and everyday stress affects your response and endurance during a scene. Your Master needs to know when your physical or emotional energy is low. No matter how tempting a scene sounds, an "I want it all now" attitude when you aren't able to give your all will leave both of you feeling let down and unfulfilled. You serve your Master and yourself best by staying healthy.

Have Fun! After all, sex is all about having a good time. You have earned and you are entitled to the unique, intense pleasure which comes from responsible, creative BDSM play.

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